that rings true to children requires certain characteristics. It must
focus on effort and accomplishment ("I noticed you studied really
hard for your spelling test, and it paid off you did better than the one
last week"). Never evaluate the self
("You're such a good boy/bad boy"), or you'll push your child
further toward yet another aspect of the epidemic: slavish devotion to
image. Be real and specific in your praise. Avoid full throttle
pronouncements like, "You are the best helper in the
world." Perhaps try something like, "That was a good idea to
sort the clean laundry by owner. Now we can put everyone's clothes away
faster." Praise also has more impact if it's selective in terms of
what is praised and conditional in terms of expecting a certain level of
achievement. When it's unexpected, it becomes something really remarkable.
In contrast, given too freely, it can produce a "praise junkie,"
a kid who expects to be complimented for everything, all the time."
~ Robert Shaw MD The Epidemic: The Rot of American
Culture, Absentee and Permissive Parenting, and the Resultant Plague of
Joyless, Selfish Children
“Its true children are like sponges, but we must provide the
~ Danielle Mantakoul, Early Child Consultant