Books about Children and Parenting

GET OUT OF MY LIFE but first could you drive me and Cheryl to the Mall? by Anthony E Wolf
A Parent's Guide to the New Teenager

Dr Wolf, a clinical psychologist with 30 years experience with children and adolescents, asserts that teenagers these days have different expectations and a different concept of their place in the world than we did at their age and this calls for different parenting styles than those employed by our parents. He very much likes teenagers and sympathizes with the enormous pressures they face. They live in the moment, desperate not to miss out on anything, thirsting for experience completely unaware that there can be other days to have that experience or that in the big picture, which experience has not provided them with, it will not really matter that much whether such and so's thing is missed. If they are girls they will fight or lie to get those experiences. If they are boys they will covertly attain them. Boys, he says, will almost literally go to their rooms and listen to music for years while girls will argue incessantly, will look to argue. One sex perhaps being more difficult to deal with while the other perhaps more troubled as they deal with growing up almost all alone. Through many mock dialogs, the author humorously depicts teenagers asserting themselves and parents trying to deal with them with hints on how to best help them towards independence. To simplify his advice, lock yourself in the bathroom if necessary but do not argue with a teen. State rules, and he recommends rules, reassert them if broken, but do not discuss them - that can be a full-time job.

     

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