Candid Quotations on Parenting and Children
The pressures of being a parent are equal to any pressure on earth. To be a conscious parent, and really look to that little being's mental and physical health, is a responsibility which most of us, including me, avoid most of the time because it's too hard.
We are always too busy for our children; we never give them the time or interest they deserve. We lavish gifts upon them; but the most precious gift, our personal association, which means so much to them, we give grudgingly.
It might sound a paradoxical thing to say --for surely never has a generation of children occupied more sheer hours of parental time --but the truth is that we neglected you. We allowed you a charade of trivial freedoms in order to avoid making those impositions on you that are in the end both the training ground and proving ground for true independence. We pronounced you strong when you were still weak in order to avoid the struggles with you that would have fed your true strength. We proclaimed you sound when you were foolish in order to avoid taking part in the long, slow, slogging effort that is the only route to genuine maturity of mind and feeling. Thus, it was no small anomaly of your growing up that while you were the most indulged generation, you were also in many ways the most abandoned to your own meager devices by those into whose safe-keeping you had been given.
The perfect victim is a white, male professional forty years of age at the height of his earning power, struck down in his prime. And the most imperfect? Well in the calculus of personal injury law, a dead child is worth the least of all.
A personal injury lawyer in the movie "A Civil Action"
Parents are usually more careful to bestow knowledge on their children rather than virtue, the art of speaking well rather than doing well; but their manners should be of the greatest concern.
Richard Buckminster Fuller
One of the most obvious facts about grownups to a child is that they have forgotten what it is like to be a child.
Parents learn a lot from their children about coping with life.
Since every effort in our educational life seems to be directed toward making of the child a being foreign to itself, it must of necessity produce individuals foreign to one another, and in everlasting antagonism with each other.
All of our children ought to be allowed a stake in the enormous richness of America.
Too many of today's children and adolescents will reach adulthood unhealthy, illiterate, unemployable, lacking moral direction and a vision of a secure future. This is a personal tragedy for the young people involved and a staggering loss for the nation as a whole. We must begin today to place children and their families at the top of the national agenda.
John D. Rockefeller, IV
Be aware of self-esteem programs, they can be seductive but offer short- term rewards. Self-esteem is caught not taught. A person must be around people who value them. In working with the child, the educator may have to pulverize concepts that the family has built over several years.
Dr. Michael Carrera, Children's Aid Society
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